billf
Stories from youth league
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, 09-30-2012 at 11:44 PM (9502 Views)
I started coaching the local youth league this season. It's been interesting, fun and at times, frustrating. Here I will post the details of that weekends events.
As I'm making my way around the lanes watching as closely as I can, keeping an eye on those that have asked for help while watching those who haven't, for when they do.
There is a 12 year old boy named Josh. Quite the bowler really. He is small, naturally, but has a huge back swing a la Fagan with good speed and revs. Being a young male of this generation he talks trash. His tormentor this week was a 12 year old girl named Morgan. Morgan is a tall, thin blonde with a very good attitude (that will change as she ages). Her starting stance could be better but she gets some good ball reaction and is getting more accurate every week. Morgan had a 140 after the 8th frame with a spare in the ninth. Josh was a pair of lanes over and just finished a 180 game. He starts jawing at Morgan as I'm walking past her lane. I look up at the scoreboard. She walks up, frowning and just taking his crap. I spoke up, " Morgan, do you realize that if you strike out you will tie Josh?"
"Oh, that's all" she says sarcastically.
"Three quality shots. I've seen you do it before. The tenth frame isn't any different than the third or fourth. It's the bowler who makes the tenth frame a big deal. The ball and pins are the same, no difference. Three quality shots."
She smiles at me and grabs her ball. Four steps, release and STRIKE. She turns around and has a huge smile on her face. Again she grabs her ball, sets, takes a deep breath, four steps and the release....STRIKE. With this one she still has a big smile but also a little first pump as she turns around. I see her filling with confidence each week, each shot. Her ball comes up the return. Quickly she grabs it, wipes it, gets set. Deep breath, four steps, the release and...........stone 9 pin for a 179.
Morgan immediately walked over to Josh, put her hand out and said, "good game."
I talked to her before the next game started. I told her how proud I was of how she handled the situation. The three quality shots under pressure. The keeping her composure when she didn't strike. Being a real sportsman and shaking her tormentor's hand.
Morgan's second game was a milestone for her. 223, all new high game. She was focused the entire time and told me later that she just kept thinking, it's just another frame, just make a quality shot. Her third game wasn't nearly as good. The boys were taunting her real bad and she was having trouble focusing. I sat between the boys and Morgan. I could see Josh listening intently. "Do you think you're a good bowler?" "Yes" she said. "Do you think Josh is a better bowler than you?" "Yes" she said.
"Any athlete can be beat on any given day. So even though I don't think Josh is better than you, it doesn't matter. What matters is what you believe. These boys have psyched you out because you don't think you're good enough to shoot better than them. I know you're good enough but me knowing it doesn't help you. Knowing you are or at the least, can be on any given day, is what's keeping you from bowling at the level I know you can. I believe in you. Now start believing in yourself."